By. Ran

Love is such a powerful emotion. It can be both euphoric and unbearably painful. It is always puzzling, and curious.

It can be wildly confusing. Maybe we don’t feel it when we need to. But when we do feel it, when the circumstances are just right, it is empowering and uplifting at the same time. It has the power to make us feel like sunshine and sunflowers. And at the same time, it can make us engulf in the darkest and the gloomiest emotions possible.

The problem arises when love meets the real world. People fall in love way too easily and frequently. We find ourselves in situations where we wish for nothing but to be with someone; the excruciating part of these situations is the fact that we cannot be with them, no matter how much we wish we could, no matter how much we try.

There can be a myriad of reasons why you cannot be with the one you love for the rest of your life. Whatever the reason may be, it is, no doubt, so unbearably painful.

Despair visits those who love someone they cannot have more often than happiness. For some, love includes never knowing what it would feel like to be with the person they love. They sit and look at the person they love, without being able to tell them how they feel, without being able to stare closely into their eyes, without being able to experience what their warmth feels like.

They sit back and dream about a future that seems too far away. Detached from reality, they’re forever longing for a person that they’ve never experienced something concrete with.

For other people, what they feel when they think about the one they love is regret. They have experienced what it is like to love and be loved in return, but for whatever reason, it is gone now. They wish things were different. A relationship between two people in love is intense and passionate, the kind of relationship where two souls become one. You know their souls inside out, you know what they are thinking about the instance you see them.

Some say that having loved and lost is better than never having loved someone ever. It is better to have experienced something than to be left wondering what it is like. But losing the person you love is heart-wrenching. There is something unfinished, something empty. The feeling that something is broken beyond repair inside of you may fade in time, but they never really go away completely.

Whatever said and done, love is a beautiful feeling. You can find peace in the knowledge that you had to have experienced something good to feel pain at being without it. Loving someone you cannot have is hard; all you can do is live with the knowledge that you are never going to be with them. But that is okay. You have loved once and you will love again. There is always hope.  Lasting love with the right person is worth the wait.

Loving someone you can’t have is one of the worst feelings you will ever feel in life. But when you think about it, you are better off having had that feeling. At the end of the day, you will get what you truly deserve and you will be glad that you took care of your heart and sanity at the tightest moments in life.