We all engage in texting for different and various reasons. It might be for business purposes, professional texting, or with our family members. But the most common use of texting is communicating with our significant others. And believe me, we tend to mess up a lot more than we realize!
So let me walk you through several texting pitfalls that anyone might fall into with their eyes wide open. If you learn about these stages which gradually lead to the doomsday of your relationship, we promise that you will be able to maintain a relationship that lasts longer and is happily.
Stage 1: The need for attention
Multiple social media platforms have turned us into people in need of attention. All of us now have a gadget in our hands which makes us connected to everybody we know constantly. With this ability, we subconsciously presume that we can have people’s attention at any given time. And while this may indeed be true, it is humanly impossible to sustain such a vast number of interpersonal relationships in a healthy manner at this speed. This is the basis of almost all the miscommunications that arise, and that is why this should be emphasized.
Stage 2: Feeling left out
Sometimes, you like to spend more and more time with someone online but you actually don’t get to do so. This often results in a tendency to feel left out or isolated. In fact, there is a certain type of clinginess we feel more prominently which stems from the fact that we feel entitled to people’s time. While this might sound harsh or laughable to some, we are all guilty of doing this at varying degrees. This is not to say that everyone has suddenly become obsessive, but we actually expect more from texting than we can actually get out from it.
Stage 3: You are glued to your phone
The major problem with this generation is being glued to their phones. It becomes a disease of sorts as you feel a constant need to communicate with your boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend(s). This dependence on texting can be harmful to relationships, as texting robs of the quality time that could be spent face-to-face. Therefore, without even being aware of it, we become a bit more socially awkward, while expecting virtual validation all of the time, leading to misunderstandings and disappointment at the end.
Stage 4: Not intimate enough
While we believe that texting makes us closer and more connected, the truth is the total opposite of it. Texting more often than not takes away the natural way we converse with each other and complicates it. All of a sudden we are more and more concerned about stuff like why the certain person is not responding right away, why is he/she using THAT emoji (is this passive-aggressive?) and why did he/she put that full stop, are they mad at me? We become to get distant due to this particular stuff and we start wondering why we have issues. Namely, because it does not feel intimate enough.
Stage 5: Heated arguments over text
With all the predispositions mentioned above, it is a given that an argument over text would be a total disaster. It obviously depends on the people involved, however, miscommunication does occur without a doubt. The funny thing is that we argue about the most trivial and the most unimportant things. Something that might not even be considered an issue now becomes the reason for World War III which happens on a virtual level. The most common triggers are the use of specific wording or phrases that are taken out of context and people ‘picturing’ in their head how something is said (the tone of voice!). Due to those factors, people tend to get more aggressive and offended in an unnecessary way. This inevitably leads to the end of a relationship.
So, it is always better to talk face to face than to text each other what you feel!